My Wedding Story
While my wedding day was truly amazing, it felt like I woke up that day with a magical bubble around me, the planning process was not. I was ill equipped to handle the stress that comes from taking on such a big event. My wedding planners, venue and vendors were phenomenal, but I found myself deep down the rabbit hole of anxiety and pressure. I became obsessed with having the “perfect wedding.” I had therapy to support me, but I still couldn’t see past it to the future. I missed out on a lot of the fun in the planning process, and even had physical reactions to the stress which subsided after the wedding. (more on that later) I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. It must have been me, no one else could have possibly felt this way leading up to their wedding. That is how I felt and I took it on in silence, afraid of how I would sound if I tried to articulate it. My (now) husband supported me the best he could, but what I realize now that I didn’t then, was that this was an inside job. I was living my life and the wedding planning process as a victim. I was letting circumstance and society dictate every decision I made, including how to feel and when to speak up.
After the wedding I fell into a slump. All that planning, build-up and energy and then the day is over. You have the memories, the photos and the videos, but sometimes there becomes a void. This is another taboo topic. You’re in a slump because you had a perfect wedding? Hide that away so you aren’t perceived as ungrateful. One study conducted found that 12% of brides had increased depression symptoms 6 months after their wedding. After being on such a high for the planning process, it’s very easy to lose sight of the bigger picture.
When I was introduced to coaching, it really started to click. I couldn’t believe the new awareness that I was gaining on a weekly basis. I couldn’t help but think what my wedding planning process would have been like from this place. A place free and clear of judgements from myself and others, a place of love, joy and fun!
That’s what inspired me to take on coaching and to share my story. If you’re in a similar place, let’s chat. I would love to calmly guide you down the aisle!
